Sexplanations

In December of 2021 Sexplanations/Dr. Doe went on hiatus for an undetermined amount of time. In fact, it was possible that the channel would not publish content again and Dr. Doe would retire completely from sexology. After a year away, a lot of time with dogs, and major work on healing, Sexplanations and your host Dr. Lindsey Doe are back to explain. This episode shares what happened in the last year and suggests there may be more in the future.

This week, Dr. Doe answers some of your questions that were sent in via Twitter. Those she doesn't answer, or answer comprehensively, are on the docket as future episodes. Stay curious.

Stay in the know with these 30 sex terms. Dr. Doe talks about Fraysexual, Rizz, Leg Booty, On a Thing, Side, Breadcrumbing and much more!

Dr. Doe reads part of Chapter 3 of Charles Panati's 'Sexy Origins and Intimate Things' because sometimes the words from the source convey the message best.

Learn how blowjob bruises or palatal petechiae can clue dentists into your sexual proclivities and how to keep up dental hygiene when deepthroat-induced stomach acid goes after your enamel. Big thanks to Dr. Mark Rigby for the smarts involved in this episode and to the sexpla(i)nauts who make it possible.

What happens when a penis breaks? And how do you deal with it?

Deepfakes were first created in the 1990s. The controversy now is due to the fact that technology has made them almost undetectable. People worry about their reputations, professions, relationships, and safety because their likeness can be easily manipulated to look like they are doing and saying things that they haven’t done or said. And when most deepfakes are pornographic in nature this becomes a sexual discussion. What are the ethics, legalities, rights involved? How do freedom of expression, artistic endeavors, and accessibility factor in? Is regulation even possible?

Comments on past videos mentioned that my old appearance with longer, natural colored hair was missed. The short, really short magenta cut isn't the sex educator people know, or find themselves attracted to. Some people. Appearance does matter but maybe not in the ways we think. It has a long history of changing and that's true for me too. Humans throughout time have molded their look to express themselves. Sometimes it relates to gender, sometimes to their sexuality. Sometimes it's to look different than their mother's generation. I just happened to do what works for me at the time. My look isn't my sexuality but I see sex in appearance often and thought you might like to know. We're complex, stay curious. Also, a big reason why I made this episode was to show looks aren't intrinsically gendered. Men wear wigs, makeup, dresses, and nail polish. Maybe more comprehensive and accurate education for the haters will lessen/stop the bigotry.

Based on my experiences and the expert feedback from a colleague (Blake), this episode lays out the dos and don'ts of attending a drag show. In a political battle over the existence of drag, people seem to have lost their manners. And I just want to make sure we get back to treating performers and others in our lives well. A big thank you to Blake for doing this work in his community and sharing wisdom with ours, to those you who share your talents, and to the many who support expression. I'm a fan.

I haven't been in a position to create much lately but really wanted to share this episode about a famous suspension bridge north of Vancouver, Canada -- the Capilano Bridge. The video explains why I took interest in this tourist attraction and what the experiment conducted there which influences our understanding of sexual arousal. It also features cute dogs and the video-making assistance of my daughter. My apologies that the research is cishet.

I was speaking with an older white man about fawning -- one of four responses humans have to stressful situations including fight, flight, and freeze. He appreciated learning about what people go through in this way and the increase in his awareness to do things differently. He asked that I make a video about it to educate more people (men) about it and so I have. There is some trepidation in sharing this because of the potential to offend people and the backlash. It's definitely a different style than usual -- more critical, more assertive. My hope is that over all these years together, I've built rapport with you to trust my intentions and assume goodwill. Even if it doesn't fit with your beliefs, fawning is something we can stay curious about.

I've been working on this episode for over six months, researching and waiting, and thinking and laughing. "Should" questions or statements are a very powerful way we organize our judgment of ourselves and others, a way of saying, there's shame if you don't behave the way I think you /should/. I don't like them. And I don't like being on the receiving end.

After Em sat down with me and shared her experiences with curiosity, gender, orientation, and relationship dynamics, I invited her to switch seats with me and ask anything she'd like. At the beginning she gave me some softies (easy asks) but then I got a tear jerker. I don't know that there's a lot here, I haven't already shared on one platform or another but I think there's something valuable about it coming out of me again. It must be important.

IS SEX...? Sometimes I wonder what people are curious about on the world wide web. What do they ask about sexuality? What are they concerned about or interested in? And so, with the help of predictive text, these are the questions autogenerated and the short answers from your online clinical sexologist. Stay curious.

I wanted a little challenge. Can I make a connection to sex from any random word or phrase? I asked the videographer to say a term without any preparation and I verbalized my train of thought without any scripting or time to really contemplate. It was exciting and taught me something about myself now. Whereas I used to connect everything to sex, I now seem to connect everything to Sexplanations. This is telling. What it suggests is that sex isn't my passion like it used to be. I'm passionate specifically about Sexplanations -- an accessible sex education resource that has a willing and engaged audience that makes the world a better place.